10 Habits of Happy Muslim Couples (Part 2 of 2)6. They make each other bloom Did you know your spouse was a separate person with a unique mind, heart, body and soul before they married you? And did you know that they still are that individual person, only with you by their side? Marriages begin to go headlong into constant unhappiness when one or both spouses forget this fundamental fact: marriage makes people partners, not parts of each other that must be controlled and bossed over. As unfortunate as the truth may be, your spouse has a lot more roles to play in life than just being your spouse; and whenever you restrict them from doing justice to all their roles, you’re going to be the cause of their constant frustration, which will only spill into your own marital relationship. Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) has created each of us to contribute...
10 Habits of Happy Muslim Couples (Part 1 of 2)What does it take to stay Muslim, married and extremely happy today? As oxymoronic as that just sounded, believe it or not, it’s absolutely possible! Marriage, especially for Muslims, is a lot more than having someone to call a husband or wife. The marital relationship is an incredible blessing and divine sign, as Allah Ta'ala says in the Qur’an: “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.” [Qur’an: Chapter 30, Verse 21] The whole purpose of having a spouse is to find tranquility in and with them; and our relationships with our spouses have signs that Allah Ta'ala is asking us to give thought to. How are some Muslim couples finding this tranquility in...Read More...
NSC Calls for Collective Action against Child Abuse, Rape and Murder in this Country 16-09-2015 His Excellency Maithripala Sirisena President Democratic Socialist Republic of Sri Lanka, Presidential Secretariat, Colombo Your Excellency, NSC Calls for Collective Action against Child Abuse, Rape and Murder in This Country: The National Shoora Council (NSC), an umbrella body of 18 national Muslim Civil Society Organizations (CBO) vehemently condemns the brutal murder of the child Seya Sadevmini, who was strangled to death at Kotadeniyawa in Divulapitiya. NSC pleads for collective action against all types of abuses against children in our country. It appeals to His Excellency the President and the Hon. Prime Minister to reinforce law and the authorities to assure safe and secure lives for the children and women of our mother land and to take immediate actions...
Do We Mind Our Language?By Khalid Baig "Every religion has a distinct moral call and the moral call of Islam is haya." (Hadith Bayhaqi) Haya is an all-encompassing Islamic concept that includes modesty, decency, and inhibition against sin. It is an inner feeling. A state of mind that reflects itself in myriad ways. Among other things, it shows itself in the language one uses. How should one communicate about morally sensitive and delicate subjects? Anyone can be crude, explicit, and vulgar. But Islam civilizes this aspect of our life also and teaches us to be refined, subtle, and indirect. As a result, the language of Islamic societies has been the language of haya. They do not talk about some subjects, (not publicly at least), not because of ignorance, but because they know. When there is need to talk about sensitive subjects, they are mentioned in a language...Read More...
8 things you can do to counteract the effects of stress1. Increase dhikr (remembrance of Allah): "Those who believe, and whose hearts find satisfaction in the remembrance of Allah: for without doubt in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction (Qur'an, 13:28)." 2. Increase prayers: "O you who believe! Seek assistance through patience and prayer; surely, Allah is with the patient (Qur'an, 2:153)." Regardless of the type of meditation, recent studies have verified the physiological effects of meditation. Most of those mediations consist in focusing on something, repeating some words and breathing (Greenberg, p.142, 143). 3. Perform ablutions: The most important component of relaxation is what Hans Loehr calls "the rituals of success." These rituals may be as simple as making ablution; yet, they must be performed properly for it is not enough to pass water on the body...
The Search for LoveI spent my life running after the creation. I have always been what you might call ‘needy’. I needed friends, I needed people. All the time. And I couldn’t handle letdowns. But at the heart of what makes us run after the creation, is simply love. The need to give and receive love. This need has been put in us by the Creator. And every need created by God, has been created for a purpose. The need to give and receive love was created as a driver. A driver that pushes us back to God. You see, we began with God, and God wants us to come back to Him in this life—even before we come back to Him in the next. So He puts inside us, drivers intended to bring us back. Intended to bring us back Home. But our problem is we get lost along the way. We can’t deny the drive; but we get lost because we seek to fulfill it in the wrong way. We look...
6 Steps to Get Back on Track With Your GoalsLife is forever changing, and with change comes anxiety, stress, and the necessity to prioritize our lives. It is in these difficult moments that we sometimes find ourselves “falling off track” in some important part of our life. For some, it may mean not spending enough time with family, increasing your faith, taking care of your health, or perhaps it is about losing weight, or even saving for that home or car you want to purchase one day.Read More...
The reality is that setting a goal for yourself is easy. What is challenging is keeping yourself motivated and renewing that motivation to keep you focused and invested in...
7 Great Life Lessons that Honeybees Teach UsHoneybees are fascinating and it’s amazing how much we can learn from a tiny insect! In fact, there is a whole surah in the Qur’an called An-Nahl (The Bee), where Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) says:1 “And your Lord inspired to the bee, “Take for yourself among the mountains, houses, and among the trees and [in] that which they construct. Then eat from all the fruits and follow the ways of your Lord laid down [for you].” There emerges from their bellies a drink, varying in colors, in which there is healing for people. Indeed in that is a sign for a people who give thought.” [Qur’an: Chapter 16, Verses 68-69]. In an effort to be among those who ‘give thought’, we will discuss together in this article some lessons that we can learn, ponder upon and implement in our lives, In sha Allah, all...